I WISH I WERE BORN A LION!
God, I wish I was born a lion cub in the Maasai-Mara game reserve!
I would be well protected by tough rangers so that my specie never disappears from the face of the earth.
Millions of dollars would have been poured from around the world just to keep me alive so that generations and generations may see me and enjoy their sight in the name of wildlife conservation.
Oh! How much would I have caught the attention of thousands of tourists from all over the world just to see how I look like in real life!
I would have become such a great movie star like the “Lion King”!
Oh God, What a curse for me!
Instead of a famous lion in the wild, I was born a baby of so-called “human” animal that I’ve found, at times, more animal than brother lion in Maasai-Mara!
My protection is not such a big deal, anyway!
There is so little money to care about my basic needs!
My life has little value, or none whatsoever. Dead or alive, it does not bother anybody!
My childhood is violated and stolen from me so early.
Street is my homeless home! There in the heat, in the cold and rain, I am battered like a repugnant deadly snake!
I am slipped into loose uniforms cut out for big brothers, pushed to carry heavy guns and fight wars I have never understood. I walk miles and miles, and hungry, I smoke what I saw big brothers smoking… and I forget that I am alive! Who cares, anyway!
I am suffering from a severe love and care starvation!
My worst foes are not lions in Maasai-Mara, they are “human animals” like you and I!
Little dogs have no toys but they are enjoying life better than I!
I cry when I hear that beautiful song sung by Mike Jackson: “We are the world, we are the children!” Why don’t you wake up Mike Jackson and sing it one more time for me!
Am I truly the world? I wonder if I were the world, why should my nights be full of nightmares? If I were the world, why is my life such a broken dream with no hope for a better tomorrow?
JESUS AND THE CHILDREN
The first best gift our children deserve is love; then, the rest. Remove the first and then the rest would remain hanging walls with no foundation. Jesus welcomed children with love and blessed them: “…Let the Children alone and do not stop them from coming to me; for it is to such as these that the Kingdom of heaven belongs” (Mat. 19: 13-14).
Earlier on, in chapter 18, verses 5 to 6, Jesus identified himself to children as he warned the adults for their duty of setting good examples for them: “Anyone who welcomes a little child like this in my name welcomes me. But anyone who is the downfall of one of these little ones who have faith in me would be better drowned in the depths of the sea with a great millstone round his neck.”
The implications of these words of the Lord are obvious. When we reject children or mistreat them, we are doing so to no one else but Jesus Christ himself. We all have an ethical responsibility towards our children. We should ever strive to set a good model for them and avoid causing their downfall.
Are we still observing this warning? Haven’t we become wolves to our children? Those parents called Christians have to follow the Master’s words in the way of treating their children. Let them stand as models for neighbours to follow.
CHILDREN’ RIGHTS
Most African countries are still wrestling with constitutional issues to come out from the jungle law set by long-life dictators and become legal States. Kenya crossed this stage last year, endorsing a new constitution for the country. We are now on the stage of gradual implementation; hoping that the process will go on without any blocks on the way.
I hope that our children’s rights are getting space within the legal framework. The privileged place Christ gave them will be recovered not only by the observance of the law but above all by the love we have for our children.
Children are a gift from God received through parents, who continuing the work of procreation given them by God at the beginning of history. So as gifts, they are accepted with no condition or discrimination, whether they are handicapped or have any behavioural defects that may affect the parents.
No child, including parents who were children at a certain point of their lives, ever negotiated his face, shape, character, time of birth or parents through whom he/she was supposed to be born. It is therefore a great responsibility for parents to welcome children the way they are born, without causing them any wounding prejudice that would affect negatively their process of growth.
A newborn has all the potential to grow as a human person but he/she starts life like any other living animal created by God. The natural, biological and instinctive functions are first at play before the gradual evolvement of the cultural, rational and intuitive functions. Becoming human is therefore a project and process entrusted into the hands of parents and various educators as the child grow up.
Do we have to cut and paste rights as practiced in the West?
It is wise that when one gets a packet, he should open it and proceed by selecting what is useful and what is not. The Western application has serious loopholes requiring a re-examination of children’s rights with regard to fundamental duties of every human person in the process of growth.
Because of the fundamental role of parents in helping the process of transformation from the natural animal to the cultural human being, we think that any sound notion of children’s rights should never jeopardize parents’ authority and guidance. There is a tendency that is making of children little adults who have too many rights that they have become the ones dictating to parents what they are supposed to do for them. Children do not have the psychological maturity to assess a situation a make the right decisions. They have to be trained by those who have undergone the experience before them.
When children can have their parents arrested for petty whims, then they have taken over their parents’ place. A child who is stronger than his parents has no reason to respect them anymore. He/she thinks everything is permitted and becomes simply a bully and selfish person who have everything the way he wills! Such an attitude is not only dangerous for the society as such but even for the very law that’s granting them such rights. We are training selfish persons who will bend laws to their personal interests. Limits are necessary for a sound growth of every human person.
Children’s right with no strong families are again walls with no foundations. As we grow aware that our children should be legally protected, it is imperative that we strive for the betterment of the parents’ life conditions. Parents who cannot afford to raise their children with the meagre means they earn are already impeded to guarantee some of the rights of their children.
Countries’ resources should be fairly distributed among all the work force; a bigger share is usually destined to the few at the top of our countries while the majority is left with scraps to survive with. Too many rights unaccompanied with love weaken the family ties as spouses and children indulge in seeking their rights fulfilled instead of giving themselves fully for the growth of their families.
Behind strong family ties we see the love driving parents to look for the benefit of their children. Normally when people love each other, they care and observe each other’s rights without even thinking of any theoretical discourse; things flow out naturally out of love. It is often when love is over that human beings begin to turn against each other in a destructive manner. Lost in the passion of hate, our judgment becomes biased and some sort of a positive reference is needed in order to establish some justice beyond our biases and prejudices. A parent who does not love his child for any reason, this happens in real life experience, needs to be reminded of the duties that are still his/hers for the growth of that child who did not negotiate to have him/her as parent.
The most important thing for us is to strike a balance between what we consider a defected notion of rights that consecrates the reign of the children over their parents; and a sound notion of rights that creates more consideration, more respect to our children without putting in jeopardy the guiding and instructive role of the parents. The latter should have the rights to use their positive creativity in dealing with specific characters of their children and responding adequately to the needs of growth of each one of them as individual beings.
A more stubborn child needs to be dealt with differently than an obedient or a meeker one. No one can direct him/herself from childhood to adulthood without parental assistance in whichever way it may be. The child does not raise his parents; he is raised by them and this fundamental position should not be reversed by any constitution if we care about making sound human beings for the human community.
This is where Africa, on matters of children’s rights, could make a difference with the West, unless we want to get out of Hollywood fiction and create true “Tarzans” raised in jungle standards! Parents! Do not leave your homestead unilaterally run by lawyers and politicians! Stand up for your responsibility when lawyers cross the line and force you to destroy your homes with misleading notions of rights.
You need Institutions that help you to build your families and raise your children according to sound human and Christian standards! The biblical wisdom reminds us that “the law was made for man and not man for the law; and that the son of man is master even of the law” (Mark 2: 27-28).
Fr Nhessy Iland IMC
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